I had a meltdown at work today. I could see it happening. I could certainly feel it happening. But my head wouldn’t stop it happening. I don’t think I made too big a goose of myself. Too bad if I did.
I went from being pissed off at what I perceive as indirect bullying, through feverishly researching the procedures for making a formal complaint and eventually ending up (5 hours & a few tears in the bathroom later) at giving up completely. The environment at work will never change and, for my own health, I will spend my time finding another job.
It takes me sooooo long to get to the point of not letting it affect me. I wish I could work out a quicker way to “rise above” and not take things so personally. Haven’t got there yet.
Is there a trick to it? Not caring? Walking away? Chucking a sickie?
For now, it is putting together some flat pack furniture, a dinner of vegemite on toast and a gastrolyte ice block, two more panadol and bed.
when you find another job spend the last 2 weeks at your previous job filling out complaint forms & file them.
As above, but first, write everything down, make sure you’re a member of your union and then make a complaint. Just remember that it’s not you and you don’t deserve it.
Thanks very much. Good advice. The comments were generic enough to not specifically accuse anyone in particular – typical.
I might be wrong, but you might find that bullying and harassment can be more about how it makes you feel than whether it is specifically targeted at you. I’d get some advice, you might find you’re putting up with it unnecessarily.
True. The definition I found says the one on the receiving end determines what it is. The difficulty comes with it being delivered in a generic way against a unit without specifying who in particular, so “I didn’t mean YOU” could be considered an informal resolution to it. And a wholly inadequate one.