Quite a bit of synchronicity around at the moment. All of it is pointing to the need to start looking after myself. No-one else is going to do it for me, right? Reminders are coming through the lives of friends and family, workmates too. Slow down. Nothing, NOTHING, is more important than health. Not a half hour of flex time being saved, not getting the early bus, not “doing everything that needs doing”.
I think that’s the lesson for me. The only person who sets the rules that start with “I have to…” is me. I can let things go – but I should never let go me. My time to stop, rest, sleep, eat properly and exercise is not less important.
Whilst I really like the message that it is me that needs to look after myself, and that I have both the power and the freedom to change my life and fill it with things I love, I really find the word “dummy” in the title of this post unhelpful. Is it looking after yourself to tell yourself you’re a dummy for not already doing that? It feels like more self chastisement to me, yet another way of saying you’re not getting it right.
Take that one word out, and this post feels vibrant and motivating, passionate and tender. It’s a lesson I need to hear too, but calling myself a dummy is *not* helping.
Look after yourself, you perfect-imperfect, beautiful, capable, fascinating human being 😉
Thanks for the comment, Julia. A fair point. Yes, I do negative talk at myself. When I snap out of “need to do” mode and realise it’s me making the to-do list, I beat myself up for not prioritizing myself on it too. A ridiculous behaviour on my part, to think I’m meant to be perfect. 🙂 I’ll keep working on going easier on myself and learning the lessons. Thank you.
I also find it only too easy to beat myself up for not getting it right. Talking nicely to oneself is a hard one to learn. It’s a understandable and very human behaviour to expect oneself to be perfect if that’s what you’ve learnt is required. Although a behaviour that will make us happier if we can manage to change it